I’m at a point now where I’ve lost over half my body weight, yeah, really, and there are a million things I wish someone had told me about, both before I started, and while I was in the middle of losing weight. Since no one did it for me, I thought I’d put the things I’ve learnt myself out onto the internet, in the hopes of helping someone else out!
This is one of the few things I did see people talking about, and it absolutely terrified me. The idea of finally having lost all the weight I’d spent years being desperate to lose, only to be left with sheets and rolls of extra skin?! The reality is, it’s not that bad. Obviously it’s different for everyone, and depends on a whole variety of different factors, but really, it’s not that bad. For me, most of my loose skin is on my arms, and my stomach is a bit wrinkly, but it’s really just not that bad to have.
For one, it’s skin, so unless someone is properly looking at you, it’s basically unnoticeable. If someone is studying me so intently that they do notice, that’s much more their issue than mine. Secondly, and finally, I’d rather have some loose skin, than all the excess fat I had. Obviously fat shouldn’t be seen as a bad thing, but the weight of it affected my life in a much more negative way than a bit of jiggly skin does.
There’s Still Bad Days
Most days, I feel pretty good about my body. It’s more how I always wanted it to look, I’m much more comfortable with my body both physically and mentally, and I can do a lot more with it than I could before, but there’s still some really bad days. The days where I’m an hour late to work because I had to try on eight outfits before I didn’t hate myself. The days I ate a bit more than usual, or less healthy than usual, and I feel bloated and gross and like I haven’t made any progress at all.
Newsflash, losing weight doesn’t fix everything. You won’t be magically happy. I am overall happier now, because I’ve put in huge amounts of effort to have a more positive mindset and be kinder to myself, but weight loss fixes nothing. Bad days still come, sometimes you still feel bad. It’s how it is for everyone, it sucks, but you’ll get through it, and tomorrow will be better, but I really thought once I hit a perfect weight, I’d never think I looked bad again.
Sizing is a nightmare
I have no idea what size I am. This will again be different for those in different situations, but if you’re like me and can’t afford to go out and buy a perfect new wardrobe full of clothes, it’s hard. I have size 14 jeans that are too big, and 12s that are too small, and half the time I just belt up my size 20 dungarees, and I can’t tell you how much I would love love love just one pair of jeans and one top that actually fits. It ties into the last point a little too, because I can look at myself in my underwear and be happy, then get dressed and wonder why I look so big, and it sucks a bit. It does keep me looking forward to when I can go out and try on a million pairs of jeans though, so at least there’s a silver lining!
Everyone Brings it Up
You know how, when you’re overweight, everyone avoids the topic of weight or size like it’s a total taboo? Yeah, that flies straight out the window. After decades of being uncomfortable talking about my weight, I now get to have to deal with it every time I see someone for the first time in a while. Woo.
On the other side of this, I’ve had some people that have phrased their weight loss related compliments in a really nice way, that didn’t make out I was better now or more attractive for having lost weight, but they’re few and far between. How did you do it? Don’t you look amazing?! How big were you? What size are you now? How did you do it??? Are the much more regular ones, and become all the more annoying when you tell people you ate better and worked out more, and they clearly wanted you to tell them you took a magic pill they can buy down the road and then woke up skinny.
So, they’re a few of the things I wish I’d been warned about or prepared for while losing weight. None of them are terrible, and I definitely would have done it anyway, but these bits would have been nice to know about!